love for me

"I love you".. are probaly the most used words in today's love oriented society. If originatorof these words would had put on a royality charges of .10 paise on usage of these... I guess probably he could had employed Bill Gates to open gates of his buglow.

"Love".. the one magical wod which we all know about.. hear about, talk about and we all practice it day in and day out.. isn;t that? isn;t it a word which is probably the most powerful word which is used in all different ways and has it;s own industry around.

Raising eyebro's on what am I saying.. look around.. it is easier to spot a donkey with his horns while you are on your morning walk rather than spoting a movie or TV serial which doesn;t have love angle or flavor in it.

I can clearly spot those fumes coming out of your nostrils, and before you come and burn me with them, let me clear, I am not talking about that boy-girl and the third kind of love here.. Love for me is not that small to be bounded with these frames.. rather love is something which is as free and as undefined as birth or death..

Now coming back to square one.. means from origination of this thought.. a simple question to all of us.. do we really know what is love?? can we love someone? or have we ever been loved?

for example.. for us, loving a girl or guy mean that he need to adjust, we need to change ourself acording to subject in question, we need to "improve" as they say, but isn't that adjustment? is love is a second form or synonym or adjustment then what is new in it??

I feel we are born with pure love and been curreptud by the ways of environment including our parents. Here I by no means disrespecting parents, and I wil be the last person to do that, what I mean here is that because they were also born in this word only and had faced same kind of situations so they gave to the best what they had..
infact if we trail it to end.. mean ADAM and EVE, they were also not been loved by God.. don;t eat from that tree? and when they did.. they were thrown out of heaven.. isn;t that use of coercive power.. isn;t that keeping the object to what we feel suitable.. but is that love? I mean keeping someone to what we feel is right is love? or is it just that we want to be loved so we call it love..

we cry and make all kinds of possible show when someone whom we love is no more around.. is that love??
as far as I am concerned love by no means is to bound a person or change a person.. it is as eternel as birth or death. If we shout because the one whom we loved is no more is there this mean we didn;t loved, we wanted to be loved... so isn;t it business, the much needed evil of society.

Infact most of us do business in the shades of love.. we all expect something or the other from the one we love.. we all demand from love.. it is like you give that and I love you... and that demand might be of a physical, emotional or anything but we do.

Is love all about being physical, mean you see someone so you love someone.. you know so you love.. you together sipping a coffee in AC, hands in hands and smile is on lips is expression of love? isn;t that again our need for possesion of someone.. capturing the way they think.. the way they talk. their way of walking.. possesion of their personality.

infact our parents never loved us.. because they were never loved by their own parents.. this is like a continued chain where each one passes on the legacy to their seccesor.. though they were all protective towards our welfair by all posible means of things they had.. but in that way.. didn;t they went too far in imposing their own personality on us.. can;t beleive on what I am saying... think about any reaction of your's and compare it with your respective parents.. doesn;t it gives their impression? So whose personality are we living into? Are we independent?? or we are still in womb.. in ths case an invisible one which is enveloped around us in terms of thinking? in terms of actions.. and all we do??

Don;t we look for to acheive perfection.. and for me a perfectionist is one who can never love.. because he tries to impose.. to change.. to seek perfection... to seek a perfect man or woman.. but first thing is that nothing exists called as perfect man or woman and if there is something.. then they are looking for perfect on their own side.. so never look for perfection in love..

For me.. love is all to give.. not to expect.. this is one place where no business.. love is not having a sip of coffee sitting at some cafe but remain thirsty if it helps.. love is not about sleeping with the one you love.. but to be awake all those nights if it makes them feel secure in their sleep.. love for me is not saying "I love you to my parents" but leaving out their shadow and being independent and then loving them as they are with all their habits... Loving a brother doesn;t mean making him win always.. but being with him when he is all blue on mood and red on cheeks as a outcome of slap his friend gave him.. loving a sister means let her have her own way of life with what he wants. loving a relative means that seeing them just as a human.. and respecting their individualism.,.

Loing everyone, for me means fighting for them till last drop of blood, till there is even a single wasp of air is there in our lungs... and making sure you maken them see that you did acheived what they wished for you. without even caring that wether they know or not.. wether there is someone to love you or not.. making sure that they can with pride say that "They LOVED you" and all they said about you was right.. they were never wrong.. they were always their;s

Because love is not expecting.. love is all about giving.. all about caring.. all about forgiving.. and I forgive everyone..